10 Ways to Show Yourself Some Love

I am a wife, mom and business owner. To say that I can get stretched thin rather quickly and burn out can set in before I even know what hit me is a huge understatement. Why is it that we women put ourselves last? Is it that we feel selfish when we do things for ourselves or we don’t think we are worthy of showing ourselves some individual love?

Whatever the reason, not taking the time to slow down, show ourselves some love and recharge our batteries can lead to overwhelm and burnout. Just like when the flight attendant instructs us to put our oxygen mask on first before assisting our children, we must take the time to let ourselves breath, recharge and refresh.

Although there are tons of ways to love on ourselves, these are my top 10 ways that I lean on when I need to recharge my batteries.

1. Wake up early and spend quiet time with God

This is actually something that I strive to do daily. When I am feeling depleted or drained I can usually pinpoint it back to my having gotten out of my routine of waking up before my kids, staying off social media, and spending uninterrupted time with God. Psalm 62:1 tells us that "My soul finds rest in God alone; salvation comes from him." 

2. Collect and read through scriptures that say who you are in Christ

Scriptures tell us that we are created in the image of God. We are good, worthy and important in his kingdom. Recently, I started researching and writing down scriptures in a small notebook that tell me who I am in God.

Reading over these scriptures always serve as a good reminder of who I really am and fills me with gratitude, love and acceptance of myself. My favorite is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

3. Carve out “you” time

We are always the last to get our best. Take some time for just you. Put the kids to bed early, take a bubble bath, enjoy a glass of your favorite wine, read a good book, simply allow yourself time to relax and recharge.

4. Give yourself permission to say no

I know that I am letting myself get pulled into the whirlwind of people pleasing when I hear myself say yes to a request when I desperately want to say no. Many of us worry so much about letting others down that we find ourselves over extended and worn out. I love Lysa Terkeurst’s advice on how to say no graciously.

5. Keep a gratitude journal

I started keeping a gratitude journal several months ago. It is my favorite way to unwind at the end of the day and calms my spirit. Not to mention it reminds me to be grateful for even the smallest things in my life. Arianna Huffington writes in her book Thrive "Gratitude works its magic by serving as an antidote to negative emotions. It's like white blood cells for the soul, protecting us from cynicism, entitlement, anger, and resignation." 

6. Go for a walk or a run and listen to your favorite podcast, playlist, or audiobook

Going for a walk or run is a great way to be alone and recharge. I have recently fallen in love with podcasts. My favorite is The Happy Hour Podcast by Jamie Ivey. I feel such a deep connection to the guests she has on the show and find such inspiration in their stories.

7. Snuggle up at your local coffee shop with a good book

This is actually one of my favorite things to do to show myself some love. I love the atmosphere, the calming flavor of the coffee, and the feel of a good book in my hands. 

8. Show yourself grace

Actually, what I mean is to allow God’s grace to embed itself in your heart. Our lives are probably very similar. Busy. Full. A bit crazy and chaotic. On most days I handle it well. But then there are the days that the sink is full of dishes, dirty laundry is overflowing, my boys have one athletic practice after another, and a big work project is looming.

These are the days that I must stop, turn to God, ask for forgiveness of this guilt that I have bestowed upon myself, and let the Holy Spirit’s gift of grace come in and take over my heart. We aren't perfect. If so, we wouldn’t need Jesus.

9. Call your best girlfriend up for a chat or meet for lunch

Sometimes we just need to push everything aside and spend time with someone who gets us. The friend that loves you just as you are, accepts your junk and gives you the space to open up and share your heart is the safest place to go.  

10. Snag your people (your hubby, kids, momma, whoever you call your people) and get out of town

One of the best ways for me to show myself some love is to pull my people in close and get away from all the chaos of life. Sometimes I simply need to get away with those that I love the most, unplug, take long walks, hike, or play day long games of Monopoly. This is one of my favorite ways to show myself love. 

We all can struggle with overwhelm and burn out. That is why it is key to show ourselves some self love and recharge our batteries. 

I am curious. What are your favorite ways to love yourself?