Action Breeds Confidence: Four Tips for Growing Your Confidence Muscle


Are you waiting for it to show up so you can get started doing the thing? The thing that keeps you up at night or stares you dead in the eyes when you look in the mirror?

That was me. Several years ago I was going through a tough time emotionally. I felt ill equipped to even be the mom I wanted to be, let alone be a successful business owner. I kept saying to myself that when I feel more confident I will get moving on making the changes that I need to make. 

And I just kept waiting. Up at night waiting to feel more confident as I binged on Parenthood on Netflix. 

Guess what? The confidence never came. What I realized was that I would never begin to "feel" confident until I took action.

Confidence is like a muscle that needs to be worked. The longer we sit idle, the weaker that muscle gets. But once we start working the confidence muscle, it gets a little stronger each day. 

Each day that I took consistent action, one foot in front of the other as they say, I felt more confident. 

Below are my four tips to growing your confidence through action.

1. Just get started

I wish I had a more tangible first step. But honestly, this is where the rubber has to meet the road. Action breeds confidence. It starts with just getting started. 

I can't begin to tell you how many times I have laid my head down on my pillow at night feeling charged up for what I was going to make happen the next day. And soon as my eyes opened the next morning the doubt set in. I would take the entire day thinking about what I needed to do to get started but did nothing. This only led to me feeling less confident and unsure of my purpose.

Sitting on something and not getting started is the worst attack on our self confidence. Just take the first step and watch your confidence grow.

2. Do the hardest thing first

Brian Tracy teaches in  Eat That Frog that your "frog" is your biggest, most important task, the one you will most likely procrastinate on if you don't do something about it. 

If you are striving to get toner and more fit for the spring and summer months working out in the morning might be the best way for you to attack your goal. I know for me, waiting until I "feel" like working out means it won't ever happen. But if I do it first thing in the morning, eat that frog if you will, then I am on my way to a leaner and more fit body in no time.

Starting your day with the hardest thing on your task list will increase your confidence level by leaps and bounds. Think about the last time you did something that was out of your comfort zone. Didn't you feel like you could go and conquer the world after you were done? 

That is the confidence we are striving for my friend.

3. Focus on the one or two things

It has been said that 80% of our accomplishments are made up of 20% of what we focus on. 

My to do list can quickly get filled up with tasks and activities that aren't moving me in the direction of my goal. I call them fillers or distractions. At the end of a day filled with filler to dos I just feel defeated and honestly, like a failure. The crazy part is this could have been avoided simply by me focusing on the one or two things that were most important. And of course, being willing to let some less important things go.

Craving a higher self confidence? Don't let the less important tasks over shadow and push out the most important. Choose those one or two things and get them done before checking email, going to the grocery store, or heaven forbid, scrolling through Facebook.

4. Let go of the multitasking facade

We have been tricked into believing that as women we are great at multitasking. I call bullshiwanky on that. I can't think of one time that I have been trying to do several things at once and finished feeling like I did all three well. It just isn't possible. Check out these 12 reasons mutlitasking doesn't work

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I know it is hard to get started when we feel like we aren't capable, like we just don't have it together. But I promise you that the confidence won't come until you get started. Take the first step today towards that thing that is keeping you up at night.

You won't be sorry my friend.