Ten Honest Truths Women in Their 40s Want Women in Their 30s to Know

I won't lie to you. 

I wasn't looking forward to the big 4-0. For several months prior I dreaded the upcoming day. But as soon as it had come and gone I realized that I quite enjoyed being 40. I learned many lessons in my 30s that I now enjoy and embrace in my 40s.

Here are 10 truths that those of us in our 40s want those of you in your 30s to know.

1. Love yourself fully.

The absolute best gift you can give yourself is to love yourself. Accepting ourselves as we are, loving the person we are designed to be, and being true to our uniqueness allows us to not only love ourselves, but others fully. This opens the door to more joy, happiness and contentment.

2. Feed your soul.

That thing you are truly passionate about, you should do it. And do it a lot. Don't waste time worrying about if it is what you should be doing or if you are equipped to make it happen. You can learn all you need to along the way. If it makes you giddy inside, you need to pursue it. Life is too short to not do the things you love.

3. Be authentic.

This might be one of the best decisions I made for myself. The day I stopped trying to be like other people and embrace who I am is the day my life changed. Being authentic simply means that you are who you are in all areas of your life. At home, out in public, in your career and business, everywhere. 

4. Find a strong support system.

I call this my tribe. It is important that you find a group of people that love and support you just as you are. They have earned your trust and are there for you through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Don't take these friendships for granted and guard them with your actions as well as your heart.

5. Let go of negative people.

I couldn't talk about finding your tribe without also letting you off the hook a little. Probably the biggest lesson I learned in my late 30s was that it is okay to say no to negative people in your life. I struggled with guilt for some time after deciding that I only have space in my life for people that lift me up. But over time I realized that if I am going to love myself fully then I have to stand up for myself. I choose to say no to negative people.

6. Embrace change.

Change is important. It can be painful and most of the time seem unnecessary. But with change comes new adventures and new growth. Embrace the change that comes into your life and learn to love the adventure.

7. Enjoy the moment.

The older I get the more I realize that we have no idea what the future holds. We can do next to nothing to control it and we are never guaranteed tomorrow. Each and every moment is a gift. Enjoy it. Don't waste it away by worrying about the future or wishing the current moment away. 

8. Forgive yourself and others.

There is no joy found in a heart filled with anger and resentment. We are an imperfect people that make mistakes. Forgive yourself when you fall short but also forgive others when they too fall short. 

9. Stop comparing yourself to other people.

I will be honest with you... I am still working on this one. It is challenging to not look to the left or to the right but to simply stay in my lane. However, it is so much more peaceful here. Living a life content and happy has no room for comparison. You are designed just as you are for a reason. Trying to be someone you aren't will only bring you discontent. Stay true to who you are.

10. Don't care so much about what other people think.

I tell people that I am a recovering people pleaser. Much of my life I wasted time caring more about what others thought of me than what I thought of myself. It is human nature to want to be accepted by others. But this type of worrying can prevent you from living life to its fullest potential. Stop worrying about what others think of you and start living your life for you.

Take the advice of the ones that have come before you. This life is a gift and meant to be enjoyed!